Red flags

Trauma alters the way we perceive danger in our life. For someone who has not experienced life-altering trauma, red flags might be easy to identify and deal with. For someone who has gone through something traumatic, especially when that trauma was prolonged and eventually accepted as reality, the ability to recognize red flags can become …

Shame

Shame is not the same as guilt. Guilt is "I've done something bad". Shame is "I am bad". Shame is an insidious result of abuse that lurks in the background of your mind, trying to convince you that you don't have the right to feel what you feel. Shame is full of paradoxes: it says you …